Ok, I need to take a second to talk about the two videos Sexplanations and Ash Hardell made in collaboration.

The first on the Sexplanations’ channel is called  “Biosex” vs “Assigned Sex” with Ash Hardell. Where Lindsay Doe(Sexplantion’s host) and Ash Hardell talk about how Lindsay Doe had been using “biosex” to talk about folk’s assigned sex and physical anatomy, and how that was problematic. It’s one of the most beautifully modeled “call-ins” I’ve ever seen. While Lindsay Doe does talk about why she used the term “biosex,” and what her intent was; she does so in the context of explaining that language has evolved since she began using “biosex,” and how her impact was very different from her intentions. Ash Hardell explains how the term “biosex” can be harmful to trans and gender queer folks, and all the positive reasons there are to say “Assigned Sex” instead.

We need more conversations like this, we need to see more conversations like this. We all are imperfect and problematic, and we are all going through the process of trying to learn how to do and be better- we are going to need to be gracious as we learn how to become better. And if it’s not triggering or hurtful to us in the moment, we need to be patient and inclusive in education each other on how we’re problematic.

The Second Video on Ash Hardell’s channel and it is called Trans Sex Ed (Dealing with Dysphoria). I have never seen anything like it! It is a great resource for how to talk about yourself, or your body, or your desires if you are trans and/or gender conforming person. Or if you have a partner or want to hook up with someone who is trans or gender nonconforming. It goes from figuring out how to have a conversation about your wants and desires, to how to talk about your body in the moment, to different toys and techniques you can use to make sex the best ever!

Instructional sex ed informed by a trans experience?! Thank God! Hella fucking necessary!

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